From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: How to quit your job as a waiter
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What is that baloney they always say?

“Life is about the journey“.

“Journey” means to travel from one place to another.

In other words, journeying is a bunch of waiting.

“It’s all about the waiting” doesn’t have the same cool factor as saying “it’s all about the journey” but it means the same thing.

It’s an excuse to not achieve, an excuse to never actually get anywhere.

When you have not succeeded and someone asks you why you can say “hey man, it’s all about the journey” and people will fall for it.

Most of them will probably nod their heads in agreement. No one is going to pat you on the back if you tell them the truth, “I’m just waiting around“.

I do a lot of traveling. I don’t travel because I like the journey, the journey is the worst part. It’s a bunch of waiting. I don’t go to new countries because I like to wait around in airports, I do it because I like to ARRIVE and be there in the moment.

When it’s time to go home it’s not “about the journey”, it’s about getting home as fast as possible. When I come home friends and family don’t ask me about the hours I spent waiting on planes, trains and automobiles, they ask me how the destination was.

The same goes for life and business. It’s not about the journey, it’s about the outcome. The achievement. It’s not about how much time you can waste waiting around. It’s about how much ass you can kick in the least amount of time possible.

Here at Bold and Determined, the website for winners ™ there are two things we don’t do:

1. We don’t BS with words. We don’t say “journey” instead of “waiting”. A lot of words mean the same thing, but one word is a powerful word and one isn’t. For example dedicated and obsessed have the same meaning but one word is soft and one word is strong. “Waiting” is a powerful word because it describes waiting without glorifying, “journey” means the same thing as waiting but can be taken positively and is easy to use as an excuse.
2. We don’t accept this baloney word “journey” as a valid excuse for non-achievement.

If you’re “all about the journey” then what you really are is a waiter. You wait, wait, wait for the perfect time but the perfect time never seems to come at the perfect time. Does it.

“I hate my job so much, I can’t wait for the right time to quit….“

“I can’t wait to lose 40 lbs. Just as soon as I start going to the gym……”

“Just as soon as I move to _______ city I will blah blah…”

“Just as soon as I get my business off the ground……”

“Everything will be better just as soon as ______. All I have to do now is wait for ______”

“Just as soon as I save up enough money I can afford _________”

I used to wait and wait and wait and complain about my job and then wait some more until I could start my own business. I did that for a decade. One day, I just stopped waiting and I started making and taking.

I wasn’t born with a silver spoon and I’m not a genius. I don’t have a trust fund, I don’t have an inheritance coming my way and I wasn’t invited to smart camp when I was in school.

The only reason I’m now free and clear is because I made the decision to start doing A (kicking ass) and stop doing B (waiting around and taking orders). Nothing will ever come and get you while you’re waiting around. You’ve got to go and get it, whatever it is.

If you’re too skinny you don’t wait round to gain some muscle, you take yourself to the gym and then you take yourself to the local all-you-can-eat buffet palace.

If you want to make some money and leave your soul-less job you start taking action and you stop waiting around. Just because something takes time to achieve doesn’t mean you need to wait around or use the journey excuse.

While everyone else is waiting around pretending to enjoy their journey to nowhere you can be kicking ass and getting to your destination faster.

All success is is a decision in your head. Success is a yes/no decision. The decision that YES! I will do this or the decision that no, this isn’t the right time.

If your decision is no, well, hey man, I understand. Life is about the journey. Like Leonard Cohen once said…..

Baby, I’ve been waiting, 
I’ve been waiting night and day. 
I didn’t see the time, 
I waited half my life away.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

“I was pretty much afraid of everything. Afraid of the world. Afraid of speaking. Really, really shy kid. Music was a way to speak.”

Can you guess who said that?

A) Anonymous shy kid on the internet or
B) Lead singer of Metallica, the most popular heavy metal group of all time

The correct answer was B. James Hetfield, the lead singer of the multi-platinum selling band Metallica, was a cripplingly shy kid who grew into a shy adult who made millions singing to enormous crowds of people.

Shy?! But he sings in the most popular metal band of all time! How?

Easy answer. He’s a performer not a conversationalist. Performance is not the same thing as polite conversation with strangers. Performance isn’t real (therefore easier) and at the same time performance bares the artist’s soul and is completely real (which fulfils the need for expression).

Performance is more, it’s bigger, it’s grander and it’s….easier to do than talking to strangers (if you’re shy). Introverts like to live in their own world. Performance allows artists to have their voice heard, in the way they want it to be heard, and they can be “in their own world” at the same time.

“I could journal, just write poetry, or write whatever was in my head and sit down, strum a few chords and put that together and – that’s me! That’s me telling the world about me when I can’t do it on my own.” -James Hetfield

…And that’s how shy introverts succeed – they perform.

Everything “social” is a performance for shy people. That’s why shy people are so drained after spending the day with family, spending the day at work, spending the night schmoozing at a party. Being around groups of people drains a shy person’s energy – because the shy person was putting on a performance the whole time.

Every man who is shy must read these two articles:

1. The #1 Legal Supplement That Relieves Stress and KILLS Social Anxiety
2. The Magic Pill To Beat Social Anxiety

Being social with strangers doesn’t come naturally to introverts. It’s not normal for them. To get through it, they simply act. It’s always a performance, whether big or small.

Sometimes shy people perform as artists, sometimes they perform as an outgoing person, but it’s always a performance for a shy person. Talking to new people is a performance, not a natural act.

The best shy people perform so well that other people don’t even know that they are shy.

You can perform so well that people don’t know that you are performing. When I tell girls “I’m shy” they laugh in my face and say “hahaha! You’re so funny! You’re definitely not shy!”

The joke is on them I suppose, I’m the shyest person I know. When I was a kid I couldn’t talk to anyone. You really have to get to know me for me to be comfortable enough with you to do simple things like laugh.

Do you know how I got over my shyness?

I simply pretend not to be shy. I put on a performance around people I don’t know. I pretend to have a conversation with them, I pretend to care.

And that’s how I got over my shyness, I forced myself to perform as an outgoing, sociable person.

Performance takes the “edge” out of being social. A performance isn’t “you”, it’s an act. You simply act like you aren’t shy. If you act enough, it becomes real, second nature.

The things we think and do always end up becoming true. I performed enough as an outgoing person that now no one believes I am shy. My performance became true. I faked it ’til I made it.

A lot of highly successful people are shy (more than one would expect) they just don’t show their shyness to the world. Quite simply, they act. They act as though they are not shy. They perform.

How shyness can help you

I get this question all the time: “I’m introverted, how can I possibly succeed with this disability?”

And I always respond the same way: Being introverted isn’t a curse, it’s a blessing.

Being shy or introverted isn’t a hindrance or a disability. It’s quite the opposite. It gives you time to think, plan and develop. Introverts have the time and desire to be alone and develop a skill – a skill that may allow you to speak to the world, even if you have a hard time speaking to Becky next door.

Extroverted people become energized when they are around people. Introverts become drained around people. Introverts need alone time to re-energize.

And it’s what introverts do in their alone time that can lead them to mega-success. When you’re alone you need something to do, you can’t just sit there doing nothing, you need something to work on. And that’s where shy people can develop talents and skills…

They have free time, they have alone time, and the “geniuses” are the shy people who used their alone time to develop a skill. Like James Hetfield, who used his alone time to learn the guitar. Like Dr. Dre who used his alone time to create music beats.

Shy people can be quite sensitive too. All great artists are sensitive people, when you peel back the mask that they put on.

Many, many of the most successful artists are actually very shy people. It takes a certain introversion to develop a talent + skill. That’s because it takes time to develop a skill, time you don’t have if you’re out being social all the time.

Introverts have more free time than extroverts (time for practice, not time for play). Shy people have the need for alone time, and that alone time gives them the time to learn and perfect a craft or skill.

Talented introverts often spend years “in the shadows” developing a talent or skill-set. Then they seem to come out of nowhere (overnight successes).

Many of the biggest celebrities who ever lived were shy introverts.

It’s often the people who have an inability to form a connection with a small group of people that have the ability to form a mega-connection with strangers (fans). They would often rather be in front of a large crowd performing than be schmoozing at a party.

Why would that be? Why would many of the most famous and talented artists and celebrities be shy? It’s because:

A) They had the alone time to develop a skill or craft and
B) They are skilled performers

They excel at performance but they don’t know how to have a conversation with strangers. It’s a nice trade-off.

I was recently watching an interview with rapper and music producer Dr. Dre. Dr. Dre is very famous as being the #1 rap producer of all time, making more hits than anybody.

While watching the interview with Dr. Dre I was struck by just how much this loud, boisterous “gangsta rapper”…

Was actually very shy!

He didn’t make eye contact much, he was often looking away, he was humble, and he wasn’t braggadocious. He obviously lived in his own world (which is where all artistic geniuses live) and he seemed quite sensitive.

The interviewer mentioned that Dre rarely (if ever) gives interviews. Obviously not a big fan of talking to strangers, but a big fan of working and bringing the vision in his head to reality.

He obviously isn’t out schmoozing all the time, yet he is one of the most successful rappers/producers of all time, currently worth an estimated 700 million dollars.

$700 million – not bad for a shy guy

How did a shy guy get so famous as a loud mouth rapper? He performed as a loud mouth gangsta rapper, that’s how. He performed so well that we all believed it.

There’s a myth that you need to be loud and boisterous to be successful. But that could not be further from the truth.

Intelligent people are often (but not always) introverted and shy. It’s better to be intelligent than to be boisterous.

If you did need to be loud and boisterous to be successful you can just pretend. Just perform as a loud and boisterous person, and then go home where you can be quiet. It’s called acting, and introverts can be very good at it.

An intelligent person can pretend to be boisterous and people will believe it. A boisterous but un-intelligent person can never believably pretend to be intelligent.

(I’m not saying all boisterous people are un-intelligent, but many are).

What to do if you’re shy?

5 steps to forget shyness:

1. Don’t feel sorry for yourself – Being shy isn’t a curse or a burden, it’s a benefit.
2. Put on a performance – Simply act as if you aren’t shy in situations that require you to be social.
3. Follow 30 Days of Discipline – 30DOD will make you get out of your head and force you to “act”. That act will eventually become the real you.
4. Learn a skill – Use your alone time to develop a skill (a central theme of the 30DOD program)
5. Have a mission – You cannot succeed without a mission, doesn’t matter if you’re introverted or extroverted. Have a goal, a purpose, a mission and everything else is easy.

More important than introversion or extroversion, to succeed wildly you need to be smart.

How smart do you have to be?

You have to be a genius.

But! you don’t need to be a genius in all areas of study, you don’t have to be a book-smart nerd, you only need to be a genius in one area to find big success.

Floyd Mayweather Jr. is a genius. He isn’t book smart, he can’t even read, but he is a boxing genius. That boxing genius led him to great wealth.

Floyd spent the time learning his skill (boxing), now he spends his time performing his skill (in boxing matches). He used the patented V. Pride Shy Guy Training Method ™ and he’s not even shy.

Frankly, if you do the work you will succeed.

Makes no difference if you are introverted, extroverted, this or that, or blah blah blah….

You still gotta do the work.

The recipe works for anyone. Whether you’re shy or outgoing the success recipe is still the same…..

Learn the skill, use the skill.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

PS – Don’t forget to start your blog and put your thoughts into it. You can use your blog as a journal and let it be your voice, the same way James Hetfield used his journal to write down his thoughts and get his voice out.

BADNET will do all the behind-the-scenes work for you, for free. It doesn’t get any better than free and easy and clean.

Let the genius out and don’t worry about the tech stuff, that’s BADNET’s job. You write, we tech.

See How to Start a Blog Overnight – Use Badnet and Follow These Easy Directions

PPS – Here are two articles every man who is shy must read:

1. The #1 Legal Supplement That Relieves Stress and KILLS Social Anxiety
2. The Magic Pill To Beat Social Anxiety

MANIFESTO
: a written statement declaring publicly the intentions, motives, or views of its issuer.

Another year is coming to an end. You have to ask yourself how your year went. As far as I see you can only have 2 options. 2010 was either the best year ever or the worst year ever.

If it was the best year ever, great! I love it! Let’s make 2011 an even better year!

If 2010 was the worst year then it should be easy to have a better year in 2010. We’re going to write our Manifestos for 2011.

Our manifesto is going to outline our goals, dreams, hopes, and fears and is going to develop a plan of attack to make our goals a reality.

The first step is to get out your word processor or a notebook so we can write everything down. If this is to work it must be written down.

If you don’t write it down you will forget about it in 15 minutes. We’re going to have it in writing so we can refer to it daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly so we can see the clear progression we have made.

Next let’s determine what our goals are for the year. Take a little while to brainstorm and write everything down. What is it that has been constantly on your mind this year but you weren’t able to fully make it a reality?

Maybe you want to…

Start your own business…

Get into great shape…

Get better with beautiful women…

Become a more confident person…

Worry less (ideally none!)…

Travel more…

Have a 300 lb bench, 400 lb squat, and 500 lb deadlift…

Do 10 pullups…

Make more $$$…

Get out of debt…

Start a jazz fusion band…

Be a more confident, bold, and determined person…

Now that you have taken some time to determine your goals for the year let’s start writing our manifesto. We’ll call this MANIFESTO 2011.

You can write your goals any way you want, it is as simple as saying “my goals are…” but I think the best way to write your goals is to write them as-if you have already achieved them. For instance…

My goals for 2011 are…

I am making more money than I ever thought possible.

I am completely free of debt.

etc..

We’re going to be referring back to our Manifestos frequently. The subtle change of saying “I AM” instead of “I want” will work wonders. The mind is a powerful tool and if the mind believes it who’s to say the mind won’t achieve it.

Now that we have written our goals let’s draw up our plan of attack. In this section you will write “my plan of attack for starting my own business is as follows…“.

Deep down in your heart you know exactly what you need to do to start your own business, or lose weight, or become a better person. You don’t need me to tell you the details.

Do that for all of your goals. I kept mine to 5 broad goals, but you can and should do it for as many goals as you have.

Next we will write our conclusion. We will write our conclusion a little differently. We are going to pretend we’re on the eve of the next year and we’re thinking back about what we accomplished in the previous year.

We are going to write something like “2011 was the best year of my life. I accomplished my goals of getting into shape, starting my own business, and getting out of debt. I accomplished these goals by following this plan of attack… It was a great year and I can’t wait to make the next year even better“. Make it as detailed as possible.

Now print out your Manifesto and keep it somewhere that you can read it every day at first, then every week to every month as you begin to realize your goals. Don’t let anyone else read it.

This is intensely personal and for your eyes only. But if someone does read it never be ashamed of it. This is how you want to live and it’s how you will live.

The idea for the Manifesto sounds corny but so what. Living your life on other peoples terms is way cornier.

The start and end of a year is just an arbitrary number but it is a good way to measure progress. No need to wait until January 1st to get started, start NOW! Whatever day it is.

Each passing moment is a chance to turn it all around.

Morning, friends.

And a beautiful morning she is. OK, to be honest it’s night time for me. I’m on the other side of the world at the moment. Bangkok, to be precise. But I did have a nice morning and I hope you do the same.

On Bold and Determined I have said over and over again that losers will always try and take you down a peg or two. Self improvement is some sort of allergy to losers. They want to take their misery out on winners and I’ll show you a perfect example.

Normally I ignore hate mail but I wanted to share this 100% real hate mail I received just the other day:

“You might be big, you might be strong, but it took you a long time to get there and you make a living only because you live where it costs nothing to live, i.e., Vietnam and Cambodia.”

Hatemail Harry has accused me of working hard in the gym, living cheap and being smart with money.

Guilty as charged.

Yes, it’s true. I worked out for many years to get big and strong. Yes, it’s true that I live cheap. And with good reason. But first…

Let me show you a picture that illustrates why I am big and strong:

Notice two things.

1. I’m in a gym.
2. I’m covered in sweat.

That’s a picture of me on vacation at a beach resort town. That liquid on me isn’t Mountain Dew, it’s sweat. Sweat equity, to be precise. You can’t buy your body with money, it costs sweat. You can buy all the surgery and you can buy all the steroids but you can’t buy the sweat, and the sweat is what gets you there.

Your business costs you sweat equity too. You can’t buy money, you can only earn it. You earn your money by building it up and working on it day in and day out, no matter how much you don’t feel like it. You earn your money and you earn your body by the same exact method – consistency.

Winners don’t start & stop, start & stop, start & stop repeatedly, but losers are always “getting ready to start” or “taking a small break”, or sending snide remarks to their betters.

Five months ago I wrote a blog post entitled How to Improve Your Mood by Making More Money. In that post I said:

Right now I make 3.5 grand per month doing nothing … Now I expect to make 8+ grand per month doing a lot more work.

That was 5 months ago when I made that public statement and stated my intention. My income for the past 5 months has been exactly what I said it was going to be.

That’s what sets the go-getters apart from the no-getters. Sweat equity, determination and dedication to goals. Putting in the work to reap the rewards. Something losers can’t comprehend. First you do work, then you get paid. If it takes years then it takes years.

Losers want to do nothing and have the spoils of war given to them. Warriors do the work and then take the spoils of war as their right.

7 years from A-Z. Strength, Confidence, Pride, Accomplishment.

How Winning is Done

Put in the time and put in the effort. Like Rocky says, take the hits and keep moving forward. I’ve been in the gym for 7 years and Bold and Determined has been online for 3 years. When I started weight training I had no physique, no base, and no real strength to start from. When I started online I had no connections and no knowledge whatsoever about building an online business. But I had heart, consistency and desire. I spent an entire year living on $800 per month so I could learn.

In the time it took the Hatemail Harry to send me a hate mail accusing me of being big and strong and smart with money he could have went to amazon.com and fired off an order for How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis and Arnold: The Education of a Bodybuilder by Arnold Schwarzenegger. He could have spent his time learning how winners got their winning done. He could have spent his abundant free time learning a new trade that would make him better as a man.

Design Your Lifestyle

I’ve personally got all the free time in the world, if I want it. I truly could work 4 hours per week if I felt like it. I don’t have to punch a time clock and I don’t have to be in the office by 9:00am. That was no accident, that was by design and intent. Rather than spend my time working in some office, paying taxes so welfare recipients can get new smart phones, I have found a better solution. It’s a 4 part solution:

1. Make money on your own terms.
2. Live abroad.
3. Leverage a 1st world income to get maximum benefit in a developing country.
4. Take advantage of the foreign earned income exclusion so you don’t owe income tax.

When you spend 330+ days abroad each year you can take advantage of a little known tax program that lets you keep your foreign earned income up to about 98k. Hatemail Harry might be happy to know that not only am I big and strong, but I also get to keep my dollars earned. Rather than throwing money away on inefficient, childish tax programs I keep it instead.

If you aren’t familiar with the US tax system the taxes owed on a 98k salary are about thirty thousand dollars. Poof. Just gone to some governmental nitwit programs. Using the outline above you could put that money in the bank rather than flush it down the toilet.

Or you could send hatemail to winners. Don’t bother me none either way. Hatemail just gives me fuel for the fire and I’ll take all the hits and keep moving forward.

Keep on winning and grinning, boys. Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

PS – Don’t forget to buy Body of a Spartan to you too can become a big and strong winner.

From the desk of Victor Pride

Subj: How to use “laziness” as fuel

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I’ve just returned from Chiang Rai, Thailand.

Chiang Rai is in the very north of Thailand, bordering on Laos and Burma.

The area is known as the “Golden Triangle” and is famous for “previously” being a heavy opium producing area.

I spent a lovely few days riding a motorbike around the mountains and around town and doing a bit of hiking to get up to the famous Khun Korn waterfall.

On the evening flight home I was reading a book on my iPad kindle “app”. The book I was reading is called How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World by Harry Browne.

I found myself skipping page after page. Not because I didn’t like the book, but because I found myself agreeing with everything I was reading. It was like reading a book that Uncle Victor might have written.

I came to one page and read a quote that had me chuckling in recognition. The quote goes like this:

For years, whenever it was appropriate in conversations, lectures, and writing, I’ve casually mentioned one or more such things as: I have no interests in governments, groups, crusades or religions; I’m lazy and have learned to live with it and enjoy it; and I see nothing wrong with being selfish.

“Ha ha” I had to say to myself in recognition.

You see, I have a confession to make. You caught me red handed….

Not only do I have zero interest in going on idealistic crusades or in belonging to any groups, not only am I selfish without remorse, I am also lazy.

“Huh?! Say it ain’t so Vic!‘

Let me explain…..

I’m not lazy in a wake up at noon, sit at home, smoke dope, eat snacks, don’t shower or shave and just watch TV kind of way. I’m lazy in a different way.

The list of things I don’t like to do is endless. The list of things I like to do is considerably shorter.

So I just don’t do things that I don’t like to do.

Since I don’t do or rarely do things I don’t like to do I have free time to do as I wish.

Google defines “lazy” as not inclined to work or exertion.

But for this purposes of this article I don’t like that definition, and I don’t like “standard” lazy people. I am going to cheat a little and use my own definition of laziness.

The B&D; definition of laziness, in this instance, is not being inclined to work or exertion when there is no clear benefit to do so or; the act of not doing things you don’t want to do or; the act of not doing things that don’t benefit you.

Using the above B&D; definition of laziness I’m going to give you two tips to not only be lazy and be OK with it, but actually turn laziness into a way to accomplish more.

The 2 Ways That Laziness Can Help You Accomplish More

1) Eliminate competition by not having any competition in the first place

Laziness can help you cut out competition. Rather than starting a business in a competitive market the easy, peasy lazy way to cut out competition is to start a business that has no competition.

If there are 500 bakeries in town it would be silly to open a bakery. Why compete and fight tooth and nail to get a piece of the pie when you can simply start something new and therefore start at the top.

It’s the difference between being a regular schlub starting at the bottom and working his way up the corporate ladder and being a man who starts his own business, in his own niche, and shoots straight to the top rather quickly.

I remember quite vividly visiting Beijing, China. In the area where all the foreigners hang out to drink and eat BBQ the Chinese have their own little stands and carts to sell knickknacks and things.

I remember walking by at least 20 carts, in a very small area, that sold the same cigarettes and cigars. About every 10 feet there would be a man or a woman with a cart selling the same exact things as the man in front and the man behind. They were all selling the exact same items within a tiny radius of each other.

I couldn’t help but think a) how they could possibly make enough money to make it worthwhile and b) how they could be so stupid to sell the exact same thing right next to each other. You could never call these people lazy, they’re there from dawn to dusk every day, but you can easily call them stupid.

Instead of selling the exact same thing they could have opened their tiny little eyes and started selling something that no one else was selling. You can’t possibly be the #1 salesman selling the same thing as 100 other people next to you, but you can easily be #1 if you are the only one. It’s dumb to compete in a saturated market when you can dominate in a new one.

Standing around doing the same thing as everyone else is a waste of time and a waste of life. Do it new, do it better, or don’t do it, but don’t do the same. You’ll simply never get ahead if you stay in the middle and the “lazy” way to get ahead is to do something new that has no competition.

2) Outsource the tasks you don’t want to do

If there is some activity or chore that you don’t like to do then just let someone else do it.

I haven’t cooked a meal, cleaned my laundry or cleaned anything at all in over a year. I can’t even remember the last time I did either of those things. I don’t even make my own morning coffee.

I’m too lazy to do those time-consuming activities. I have ass to kick and I don’t want to waste my time farting around in the kitchen or mopping the floor.

But household chores must be done so I, wait for it, OUTSOURCE. Yes, I have those things done for me.

A man doesn’t need to do everything for himself. You don’t need to be cooking, cleaning, ironing, scrubbing floors and working on your business or working your job and bringing home the bacon. These household tasks can be done for you.

In a bygone era this style of living was standard and normal. Women cooked and cleaned, men earned the bread.

In our world it’s considered lazy or “unfair” for a man to not help out around the house. Who cares. Life is a thousand times better when you don’t have to worry about getting the cooking and cleaning done.

Get yourself a little helper bee to take care of the housework so you can focus on business and your quality of life increases. If that’s laziness then you can call me lazy all day and night.

BONUS: How to be successful as a lone Wolf

I often get questions like “Victor, how did you find all this stuff out? Did you have a mentor like Rich Dad/Poor Dad or did your father teach you all this stuff?” and the answer to that question is no, I never had anyone like that.

I’ve been a lone Wolf since I was 12 years old. What I know comes from experience and self-learning.

In fact, when I was a young man I was the subject of jokes about my “laziness”.

An older family member would always tell me about the wonders of getting a degree, getting a good job in I.T., getting a 401(k) and retiring like a king. Even as a snot nosed punk I knew that advice was terrible and didn’t particularly follow it.

So you can believe me when I tell you that if you don’t have a mentor, if you don’t have a good teacher, if you don’t have a role model, or if you don’t belong to this group or that group it’s not the end of the world.

Everything you ever wanted to learn about anything is available at your fingertips. At the click of a button you can learn anything you want.

I am an entrepreneur because of the internet, no two ways about it, and I was lazy as can be until I started my own self education.

Being a lone Wolf can help you tremendously and I will tell you exactly how: As a lone Wolf you can feel free to disregard advice from Sheep.

Sometimes I get emails and comments along the lines of “But Victor, not everyone can do what you do!“.

Guys, you may as well email me to say the sky is blue. If everyone could do what I can do then I would be out of business.

So let me tell you the #2 benefit of being a lone Wolf: you are out of the ordinary and you are capable of doing extraordinary things IF! you want to and IF! you focus on it.

If you’re a lone Wolf worried about how best to fit in, my advice is to stop worrying. Don’t worry about fitting in. Being a lone Wolf is a gift because it gives you an outside perspective.

If you really wanted to fit in then all you need to do is stop reading Bold and Determined – The Website for Winners ™ and start reading gossip magazines in the office breakroom during your 45 minute pre-approved lunch break.

To each their own but I never much liked working around an office, pushing papers and attending HR meetings.

I like to kick ass, lift weights, make money and climb mountains in northern Thailand on Tuesday afternoons so that’s what I do.

I’m able to live like that because I avoid all activities that I don’t enjoy or that don’t get me closer to my goal and I don’t worry about “fitting in”.

Maybe that’s just me though.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

The laziest business that pays the biggest is blogging. Click here to learn how to do it the easiest way imaginable.

Is your stuffy job worth it?

Working 50 hours a week with people you hate just so you can make someone else rich?

Are your two cars and the two car payments and the two insurance premiums worth it?

Is your 30 year mortgage worth it? Are your yearly property taxes worth it?

Is your 50 inch flat screen TV with 500 channels of indoctrination worth it?

Is your useless 4 year degree with your insurmountable student loans worth it?

Is it worth going into massive credit card debt just to get the new iPhone?

Is it worth saving for your far-off retirement so you can finally live like you should now?

Is constantly buying useless shit worth the sacrifice you make to work at a shitty job?

Places like this exist.

It probably takes less money to get there than the amount you spend every month.

Is it worth it?

Winners don’t sacrifice anything. They do exactly what they want, whenever they want.

Winners do not want to be doing anything else other than winning.

They don’t want to go to the movies, they don’t want to go to their kid’s birthday party, they don’t want to go out to Valentine’s day dinners.

They only want to concentrate on the one thing that makes them great.

It isn’t sacrifice if you want to be doing the thing you are doing.

Only losers sacrifice. And they sacrifice every single day.

Only a loser would rather be doing something else.

Only a loser goes into his 9-5 thinking it’s the only way to provide for himself or his family or that it’s what he has to do to get ahead.

So he sacrifices a whole lifetime.

And the game rewards the man who didn’t sacrifice. The game punishes the schlub who sacrifices because he’s playing by the rules.

Sacrifice is another word for ‘giving in’. Winners don’t give in and they don’t sacrifice. They ruthlessly avoid sacrifice. In a winners mind there is no such thing as giving in.

Think that over on Monday morning. Willy Winner was probably up at 5am ready to kill. Seth Sacrifice is pushing his snooze button for the 3rd time.

You’re the Lion.

Or you’re the sacrificial lamb.

Friend, you ain’t both.

Are you a winner or are you a loser?

Are you a Lion or are you a Gazelle?

Are you a do-er or a do-ee?

Did you strengthen your mind, body and soul this weekend or did you spend your time on the couch?

Are you the Alpha or the Omega?

Do you face your fears or are you a coward?

Do you have a single-minded focus or just “hanging out” and “going with the flow”?

Did you think to yourself this morning “Fuck yes, it’s Monday!” or “Fuck, it’s Monday again!“?

Are you waiting or are you preparing?

Choose your answers. Make your decisions. Prove it and then do it.

Don’t tell us about it because we don’t give a shit about your words.

We care about what you DO.

Get your game face on, Motherfucker.

It’s time to do some killing.

The pity is that everyone hates their job. The pity is that everyone is looking for a way out. A way to make ends meet without the soul crushing.

The pity is that most people spend years going to college and years working in a soul-killing position before they open their eyes.

The pity is that everyone thinks “If I could just get that one great idea…”, “If I could just get one big break…”, “If only someone gave me a chance I could really do something great”. The pity is that all the time spent day dreaming could have been spent building something.

The pity is that most people live with mountains of debt, go to work to pay off the debt, and then buy more things on credit. The pity is that everyone feels the burden of all that stuff on their shoulders but they don’t know that it’s ok to get rid of it all.

The pity is that people have become soul-less. The pity is that they drown themselves in booze, or narcotics, or games, or sex. The pity is that they think there is no way out.

The pity is that they become nihilistic. The pity is that instead of building and making the decision to live a rewarding and fulfilling life they just continue on the same path that is killing them.

The pity is that they will type, type, type away about all of their problems but they won’t type up a solution.

The pity is that they have unprecedented freedom to do anything they want. The pity is that it’s easier to not have a job than it is to have a job.

The pity is that everyone has an idea of what they want but no one has a plan. The pity is that when someone asks them “What do you want” they do not have a concrete answer.

That is the pity with them.

The pity with you is that you are not soul-less. The pity is that you are not a dumb animal. The pity is that they have unlimited options. The pity is that you consciously choose a dead-end path. The pity is that you will not make a decision without a committee approval.  The pity is that even though you are free you act like a prisoner.

The pity is that the solution has been right in front of your eyes this entire time.

The worlds full of them. The talkers. They just talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Just when you thought they were done they talk some more.

Then they go home and get on the internet and talk some more. They talk about this and they talk about that. “This person wouldn’t listen to me talk. How can I make that person listen to me talk?”

They talk about their future. They talk about what they’re gonna do. They talk about why they didn’t do what they said they were going to do. They talk about why it’s not their fault.

They talk about the excuses.

They talk about who they blame.

They talk about the girl that screwed them over.

They talk about acting weak like it’s the right thing to be.

They talk about what they could do if only they wanted to.

They talk about how other people are in the wrong for treating them like poop.

They talk about what’s wrong with the other people.

“Can’t the other people see how hard I’m trying? Can’t they see how nice and caring I am? Why can’t those other people just give me a chance? When will it be my turn? I’ve been waiting and waiting in line and I’ve been talking about it the whole time. If I could just talk to them I could make them understand.”

Walker: Hey Johnny Talker, why don’t you try some walking.

Talker: No, I just want to keep talking. Do you think she’ll ever take me back? Do you think I’ll get that promotion? Probably not, people just always want to screw me over. Talk talk talk talk talk. Where are you going Johnny Walker? I’m not done talking.

Walker: Johnny Talker, there’s only one thing to say to you. I’m gonna say it once so listen close:

 SHUT UP.