No one at your office is as innovative as you and they won’t listen to you?
Who gives a fuck!

Your co-workers are all obese and don’t respect your dietary lifestyle?
Who gives a fuck!

Can’t get Suzy in accounting to go out with you?
Who gives a fuck!

Can’t find a job with your degree?
Who gives a fuck!

Can’t go out tonight because you have to open up the store tomorrow?
Who gives a fuck!

The big promotion went to that asshole Brad instead of you?
Who gives a fuck!

Got laid off so the company could save a few bucks?
Who gives a fuck!

Facebook is blocked on your company server?
Who gives a fuck!

Wouldn’t you rather make the rules instead of obey them?
You had better do something about it yourself because we certainly don’t give a fuck.

Until you see that everything is your responsibility nothing will ever change. Accept it or do something about it but never whine about it. Winners act. Losers complain. Which one are you?

It is only when you start to win that anybody starts to give a fuck. Keep your mouth shut and change the game while all the losers are complaining.

For thousands of years the priesthood has been confronting a simple problem which they cannot solve.

They see criminals, sinners becoming successful, rich. 

They see simple people, innocent people being crushed, exploited, oppressed, and still religion goes on saying, “Be simple, be innocent.”

Then the question arises: if innocence and simplicity are never rewarded, only corruption, cruelty, violence are rewarded, then why be simple?” 

That is a quote by Chandra Mohan Jain, a drug-addicted, sex-crazed, conman guru drug-runner whose cult was responsible for the largest domestic bio-terrorist act in US history.

In addition to poisoning the townspeople in an effort to win a local election, his cult followers also made sure he had 93 Rolls Royces, lived in lavish luxury, and had plenty of fresh young, white girls to play with.

You may not recognize his given name, but you may recognize who he became: Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, and finally, Osho.

Osho did a lot of really wacky, illegal stuff (which you can see here). He died in 1990 but if you look at his YouTube videos today you will see hundreds of people referring to him as their God.

The guy was a real jerk and to this day people call him their God. I tell you this not to poo-poo on a dead man but to illustrate a point…

IT PAYS TO BE BAD.

It is not only Osho who happened to gain a lot of money, power, and young females while also being a bad guy.

The allure of the bad guy goes far beyond mere cult leaders and conmen.

In this world, every hero is also a heel.

From Arnold to Zuckerberg, every celebrated man has a dark side. It is not in spite of this dark side but because of it that every successful man finds success.

Now you will learn how to exploit your own “dark side” in order to gain wealth, power, and freedom. You will be in good company…

Alexander the Great was a conqueror and killer, Genghis Khan was a rapist, Moses was a murderer, Christopher Columbus was a slaver, Mahatma Gandhi was a racist, Dr. Martin Luther King wasn’t even a doctor, and Adolf Hitler apparently didn’t like the Jews.

On and on through history, every great man had a dastardly side. We don’t worship these great men in spite of their bad behavior, we worship them precisely because of their bad behavior.

If they were good guys they would have been forgotten ten seconds after they died. Because they were bad guys they have been and will be remembered for centuries.

Only the bad guys have the nuts to go after what they want without apology. So you see, you little wimp, that bad guys live the good life and good guys live the bad life.

When you realize that good guys get nowhere and bad guys get everywhere you will reach a turning point in your life and career.

Like the terrific bad guy Nietzsche said, the great epochs of our life are at the points when we gain courage to re-baptize our badness as the best in us.

This is how you re-baptize the badness in you…

10 WAYS TO BE A BETTER BAD GUY

1. Be a shameless self-promoter

Pay attention to this beautiful word “shameless.” It’s a word that makes dicks hard and pussies wet. Shame is what nice guy pussies feel. Why would you feel shame if you are not a dog? You wouldn’t. Nice guys are dogs that get walked all over because they allow shame and if you allow shame you allow yourself to eat shit.

Here is an easy way to never feel shame: Do not do anything that shames you. Problem solved. I hear these ridiculous weaklings say that OTHER PEOPLE make them feel shame. They say things like:

• “He makes me ashamed to be white” 
• “He makes me ashamed to be an American”
• “He makes me ashamed of my gender”

Each time someone says these words to you, slap them. They’ll not retaliate and they deserve to be bullied. The people who speak like this deserve to get walked on because they are impotent. They’ll do absolutely nothing.

2. Be the bully, not the bullied

This weak advice called the golden rule will never see you rise above the man whose will is stronger than yours. If you are nice you are weak willed. To get what you want in this world you must use different tactics. Sometimes finesse works, sometimes you need to be a bully. Bullies always get what they want unless they meet somebody with a stronger will. This is a game of wills. It is my will vs. your will. The nice guy will not take what is his but the bad guy will take it from the nice guy.

“But I HATE bullies!!!” Of course you hate bullies, you’re a weakling with a weak will. A bullies will is stronger than your will and they dominate you, obviously you hate them. But what you don’t do is stand up to them. If you did, they would cease to bully you and you would become the bully. You can either get bullied or you can become an even bigger bully and bully the bullies.

3. Have the capacity to be cruel

Poor people are some of the nicest people in the world and that should be a real good lesson for you. Cruelty is rewarded in this world and niceness is punished. People who cannot be cruel – pussies – get fucked. It is only people who have the capacity to be cruel that have the ability to stand up for themselves. If you cannot hurt anybody you cannot stand up for yourself. This makes you a doormat. Learning to be a little cruel is an important part of being a bad guy that gets all the good business.

4. Keep up the appearance of atrocity

A lot of power is in the appearance, the reputation. Keep the reputation mean by never being too nice. And if you are nice, make sure it’s in a mean way. Be a miser, and never give anything away, including frivolous compliments. Niceness makes you look ridiculous. You cannot afford to look ridiculous because all of the power is in appearance.

5. Keep a closed mouth and deaf ears

Ever heard loose lips, sink ships? Of course you have. Keep your secrets. Businesses are built and fortunes are made on one tiny little secret. If you give away all your secrets you give away all your power. You can give away 90% of your secrets but always keep 10% behind a closed mouth. Tell nobody on earth the remaining 10%. They should be able to figure out the secrets of success with 90% of the information. If they can’t, fuck ’em. The masses are morons and if you give them the answer the only thing that will happen is you will look like a fool. Be careful to keep your mouth shut at opportune times. In negotiations, when someone is digging their own grave, don’t tell them to stop digging. Motivate them to dig faster.

When it comes to listening there is one piece of advice I have for you: don’t. Never listen to anything the naysayers have to say. If you do, it will be your demise. They will always try to talk you out of your success, they will always try to talk you down to their level. If you listen, you lose. The winners in this game are the ones with deaf ears who never hear what they have to say. The hard part about success is not doing the work, it’s putting up with the simpletons who nonstop tell you “That’s bad! Success is bad! Money is bad! Money is the root of all evil! Love and peace and poverty is what it’s all about, man!” If you want success instead of failure the only thing you can respond with is: “Huh? Did you say something?”

6. Don’t relate with the poor and the weak

If there’s one good word to describe the poor it would be this word: FEAR. The poor are literally AFRAID of almost everything. They are AFRAID of trying, they are AFRAID of making money, they are quite literally afraid of doing almost anything. You can even hear them say “You are trying too hard!” This fear of trying paralyzes them and keeps them stuck in the rut that is poverty.

Above all else, poverty and riches are mindsets. A poor mindset leads to a poor bank account. Rich people have to set aside fear and take chances – they have to actually try. Trying is something that poor people are too afraid to do. You have to spend time with people who take chances rather than spending time with people who are afraid of ghosts and shadows and witches and warlocks.

There is one good reason to mingle with poor people: To learn exactly what not to do. Mingle with the poor and you will learn how positively stupid they are and you will learn exactly why they are poor. Making money is not hard, it is simple and it is easy. If you cannot figure it out maybe, maybe you belong to the poor. If you are too afraid to figure it out, you deserve poverty.

FORTUNE FAVORS THE BOLD! The Bold and Determined man does the exact opposite of the scared and afraid. The poor are stupid and superstitious so you be smart and sensical. Otherwise, don’t even bother dealing with the poor unless it is to collect rent money.

7. Break the rules

Listen here: YOU CANNOT GET RICH BY FOLLOWING THE RULES. The rules and religions are there to keep you enslaved. It is up to you to break free from your enslavement. You break free by breaking the rules so follow the law and break the rules. Ever seen a high-powered politician following the rules? Of course not. Yet you still stupidly say “I follow all the rules and I get nothing! Boo-hoo!” You get what you deserve, nothing. Open your eyes and you will be able to see: rules are for fools.

It is against the rules to be politically insensitive but if you follow that rule you are essentially committing suicide. Foolish whites who follow the rules would rather give away their countries than appear racist. Foolish men would rather castrate themselves than appear sexist. You have people who think the American flag is racist, so good boys don’t fly the flag. What happens? The country goes bye bye. Follow the rules and you will vanish from this world. You must be racist, sexist, and all of the other “ist” to actually thrive in this world. Anything less is suicidal.

Following the rules leave you weak and vulnerable to people who don’t care about your super strong moral code. The point is not to actually do objectively bad things, the point is that what is considered bad often is not. Thou shall not kill is a real nice bedtime story but if someone breaks into your house with a butcher’s knife it is kill or be killed. Thou shall not kill will leave you dead or enslaved to those who will. A rule follower is a perfect low-testosterone slave and that is all a rule follower is.

8. Have high testosterone and low estrogen

Sniff*sniff*sniff. Do you smell that? It smells like… estrogen.

In our modern world, estrogen is a killer of what once were men. Steps have to be taken to kill your disgusting estrogen production caused by environmental poisons and by what doctors call general every-day faggotry. Estrogen brings you no good benefits unless you are a born female. If you have a problem with estrogen, use performance enhancers to kill it. Yes, I said use performance enhancers.

What damn fool would be stuck with only the talents god gave him when he can increase his natural talents 10 fold or more? Performance enhancers are hated by the general public for a reason, they work. They work well. Jerkoff Joe stuck at home in Jerkwater, Nebraska hates them because they are a reminder that he could choose not to be a loser. It would be terrible looking in the mirror knowing you are a loser and that it could be changed but. you. just. won’t. change.

9. Always offend people

If you don’t offend at least a handful of people you are not a very good bad guy. Offending people is one of the keys to success because if you can offend people you can also attract people. The best bad guys are the one who are either loved or hated. The worst is to be lukewarm and tolerated by all. Some of them should hate you and some of them should love you, this is the recipe to make a great bad guy. Like George Bernard Shaw said, the secret to success is to offend the greatest number of people.

10. Create your own morals

Morals are very important but they have to be YOUR morals, not the morals of your enemy. An enemy is anyone who does not want you to do what is in your best interest. Most of the morals you hold so highly were given to you by your enemies. They are foreign, alien morals which serve to demoralize you. Embracing the morals of your enemy makes you a demoralized person, incapable of processing basic factual information and completely lacking common sense.

A demoralized person will fall for anything. Like they say, if you believe in nothing you will fall for anything. And that is exactly what has happened. A demoralized people do not act in their own best interest, they act AGAINST their own best interest. Your morals MUST serve you and your people first and foremost. Anything else is suicidal. Good and evil do exist, but you must not take your advice on what is good from evil people. You have been made to believe that what is self-destructive is good and that self-preservation is bad.

Nature doesn’t know anything about good or bad. Nature knows that the weak get eaten by the strong. Who is the bad guy in war? Why, the enemy is the bad guy of course. But who does the enemy think the bad guy is? Why you of course. Dealing drugs is bad but your doctor is a real swell guy. Killing people is a terrible, horrific act of violence unless your government says it’s ok, then it’s patriotic heroism. On and on.

(Some people may take this to mean that child abuse is neither right or wrong, which is incorrect. Child abuse is always wrong, no matter what, in all cases.)

Bad and good is certainly real, but it is a matter of perspective. Some actually think that erosion of borders and national values is good, whereas some think strong borders and strong national values are good. Who’s right? Heres what is good or bad: If it serves you, it’s good. If it serves your enemy, it’s bad. When you grow up you have to live in the reality of morality, specifically that morality cannot be given to you by people who do not share your values. Everything can be both good and bad at the same time, depending on the perspective. Therefore you must not follow the morals of others, you must create and stick to your own. They should include:

Show No Weakness, Show No Mercy, Be Relentless, Be Remorseless, Be Ruthless, Be Selfish, Be Conceited, Be Greedy, Be Full Of Yourself, Increase Your Ego…

AND ALWAYS GET YOUR REVENGE!

Follow these rules, lest you enjoy being shit on, pissed on, spit on, stepped on, fucked with, and pointed at by lesser men.

The bad guy enjoys all of the benefits this world has to offer. He pays lip service to “good strong morals” and convinces you to do the opposite of what he does, to his great benefit and your great detriment.

If you think I’m joking with you, just go out in this world and be a nice guy.

See how far that gets you.

Sucker.

Listen here sucker, there is always a top dog in the world and it is either you or someone else.

Why not you?

Trick question. It’s always better to be you than someone else. Make it you, ruthlessly if necessary.

Do you know what the opposite of ruthless is? It is gutless.

Gutlessness is cowardice, it is not “doing the right thing.” That’s a bullshit excuse for failure.

Do you know how you actually fail? You never try hard enough and you never go all the way. That’s real failure.

If you are going to go you must go all the way.

In the end you will see that it is not about doing “bad” things, it is about standing up for yourself, building a future for yourself, and turning the dream into a reality using nothing but your willpower.

That’s all there is to it.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

PS – Learn how to stop being a weakling in 30 days by following the anti-weakling program: 30 DAYS OF DISCIPLINE

Advice from friendly friends and family members is not meant to help you succeed. It’s meant to help you not break waves and go too far beyond the ordinary.

It isn’t their fault, they aren’t mean or deceitful, they really are trying to help – but only in the way they can imagine will help.

They can’t crawl around in your brain and see your vision, drive, or passion. They can only see their own lack of it.

You should never listen to advice from friendly friends and family. You can hear it but you should never listen. Following their advice is akin to deflating a balloon.

You’re doing something out of the ordinary because you don’t want to live an ordinary life with a 9-5 job, mortgage, two car lease payments, monthly cell phone plan, and credit card payments.

The friendly friends and family went the normal route, their advice to you is “This is how you go the normal route”.

The real advice, the good advice, isn’t pretty, it isn’t nice, it’s usually the opposite of ‘popular opinion’ and it’s how 100% of successful men got that way. They didn’t follow the baloney rules that friendly friends and family follow. They made their own rules and turned a deaf ear to friendly advice from friendly friends and family.

Friendly friends and family will all give you the same advice independently of each other. You’ll say “Yeah, that’s what everyone says”. But take a look at their lives. They aren’t enviable, they are pitiable and if you take their advice it’s exactly where you are headed.

Advice should make you think. It shouldn’t make you say “Yeah, I know what I should do….”

The advice that matters should make you say “Wow! I never thought of that! Everyone else says the opposite.”

The Be/But Advice from friendly friends and family:

Be proud but don’t be arrogant.

Be money conscious but don’t be greedy.

Be courageous but don’t be insane.

Be strong but don’t be a meat-head.

Be passionate but don’t be obsessed.

Be adventurous but don’t be crazy.

Be disciplined but don’t be strict.

Be smart but don’t be a wise-butt.

Work hard but take time to relax.

It’s ok if you fail, we’ll be here waiting for you with open arms.

The BE advice from BOLD & DETERMINED:

Be Proud.

Be Obsessed.

Be Crazy.

Be Selfish.

Be Strict.

Be after Money.

Be after Freedom.

Be Deaf to Bullshit.

BUT nothing. Here it is and I’m going after it with everything I’ve got. All the friendly advice in the world isn’t worth a dime to me. 

Go after what you want and don’t take baloney advice from anyone who hasn’t succeeded in doing the exact same thing you are trying to do. You can never fail because you will never give up. Even if you die trying.

Moderation is not the key to success, it’s the key to mediocrity. 

From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: How to develop a superiority complex
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The best way to become ordinary is to follow the advice of ordinary people.

Maybe even some of the time they truly believe their advice will help you.

But most of the time their advice is designed to keep you from rising up.

They’ll say “well, I just don’t want to see you get hurt.”

But what they truly mean is “well, I’d really hate to see you succeed and remind me of my menial existence.”

So who can you take advice from?

You take advice only from people who walk the walk, the only people who give meaningful advice.

And here’s the cold hard reality: Good advice is always the opposite of popular advice, or the “consensus”.

When you ask for the consensus in regards to blah blah you are asking how to fail.

I see this in internet forums all the time. Some guy on a bodybuilding forum asks for a consensus on some exercise or supplement. A bunch of know-nothing talkers talk about their know-nothing opinion and the advice seeker says “thanks for the great advice. Glad we’re all on the same page.”

If you want real advice that really works you take it from the lone wolf whose opinion differs from the consensus. If the consensus is “A”, you do “B”.

But when you take unpopular advice you become a target to your friends and family for doing something out of the ordinary. They start to question you, they start to mock you, they demand you give in to them and do the normal thing.

So you do one of two things:

1. You tuck your tail between your legs and give in, like a broken dog, or
2. You become unbreakable.

Larry the Lamb chooses option #1.

Winner Wolf chooses option #2. He becomes UNBREAKABLE. The opinions of lessers mean absolutely nothing to the unbreakable.

What does it mean to be unbreakable?

To put it in no uncertain terms, becoming unbreakable means building and maintaining a protective shell or wall around your emotions to insulate yourself so you don’t even entertain thoughts that deviate from your plan.

Inside your head you have your plan, you know your plan. Your mom, your dad, your girlfriend, your best buddy from 5th grade don’t know your plan because they aren’t inside your head.

When you spill your guts to them about your plan they try and talk you out of it. They don’t understand your plan and it isn’t their job to understand, it’s their job to try and talk you out of it.

The breakable will listen to them and say “Yeah, I guess you’re right.” The unbreakable won’t even hear it.

If you want success you must have a plan for that success and it must be on your terms.

To do things on your own terms you must be unbreakable. Develop an unbreakable shell. When they shout their nonsense in your ear don’t let it break you.

When they talk down to you, ridicule you, or poke fun at you don’t let it break you. Don’t even hear it, don’t even entertain it, don’t even pretend to listen.

Remember this: They are in the position they are in because they took that same stupid advice; go with the flow. If you want to be like them then listen to them and become forgettable.

If you want more you must ignore.

Recently a reader asked me how to deal with an inferiority complex.

Here’s what you do: develop a superiority complex by becoming superior. Don’t just think of yourself as superior, become superior.

This “everyone is equal and everyone is the same” line is cute and all but it’s baloney.

Some people are good and some people are bad, some people are inferior and some people are superior.

My man Victor,

Reading your blogs is a breath of fresh air. In fact, I was so driven insane by thoughts of failure and depression that only your blog helps.

My question: I go to an Ivy League university (not that I give a shit about it, but it gives context to my problem) and seeing so many intelligent people around me deflates me. I know I’ll never be an engineer as good as some of these guys, or a mathematician. I know-and this is factual-that ounce for ounce, some of them are more intelligent.

My success comes in practical things-the softer subjects, but also life. I am a religious Indian man and I believe in leading my life with pride and purpose. Yet it happens so often-I feel inferior to others who are “better”, more intelligent/more accomplished, although I am gifted in so many ways-I look for something even better.

I have to overcome this shit; I need to wake up knowing that I’m no lesser to anyone. Hell, I know in my heart that I’m a champ, but the fire seems to die out every once in a while.

I was in the social circle/networking until about a year ago, when a rumor came to bite me in the back. I quit that shit called Facebook and now just look at emails…was happy when I saw you wrote a post on that.

PLEASE write a blog post on this if you can. I want to live life like a tiger, and I want to stop feeling like a 2nd rate piece of trash from time to time. HOW DO I FORGET MY PAST MISTAKES? I care too much about what people think of me. I need to move on with my life, but it’s not happening. I need your advice.

Thanks so much,

Sanford

If it were true that you wanted to overcome this inferiority “complex” then you would be busy right now. You would be busy building, molting, or metamorphosizing.

If you feel inferior there is only one damn thing you can do.

BECOME BETTER.

Remold into gold and become a superior man.

Put a plan into action and follow it until accomplished and don’t let a goddamn thing get in your way.

I’m not going to tell you that you’re just as good as everyone else and that no one is better than you and that we all have our strengths.

Some people are better than others. If you are inferior it isn’t a complex. It’s a cold, hard slap in the face from daddy reality.

If I were inferior, and believe me I used to be, I would work like hell to become superior.

Here is the rule to follow: Accept the things you cannot change and fix the things that you can. And then become unbreakable.

If it cannot be changed there is no sense in crying about it, but if it can be changed and it’s eating at your soul then you need to work on it, day and night if need be, until you’re a better man.

Some people will call superiority a mental disorder. I don’t care. The mental health profession is full of delusional ninnies.

When you’re so focused and driven that you don’t let nincompoops tear you down that is called a mental disorder or a social disorder. Fine. They can be normal and “healthy” all they want. That’s why they are losers.

The entire mental health industry is full of quacks and crazies, to listen to them is insane. Inferiority and superiority aren’t complexes, they are real life.

When I see people I usually feel one of two things: Disgust or curiosity.

When I see dirty people I feel nothing but disgust.

When I see well dressed, presentable, successful people of means I become curious. “What do they do, how did they do it, and what could I learn from reverse engineering them?“.

And when I go looking for advice, guess which type of person I go to?

Inferior or superior, choose one or the other ’cause ain’t no in-between.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

Some are of the opinion that your destiny is out of your control. That your destiny has been pre-determined and you have no choice in the matter. Some believe that it does not matter if you take action or do nothing. Some believe that whatever will be will be and there is no point in planning.

Others believe that you are the creator of all that happens in your life. BOLD & DETERMINED is of the opinion that anything a smart and mentally stable person wishes to achieve can be achieved through the sheer power of determination.

Arnold Schwarzenegger wished to become the best bodybuilder who ever lived. His parents and his peers in his small Austrian town thought bodybuilding was a ticket to nowhere and that he was wasting his time. But young Arnold had an iron will and unbreakable determination and he went on to become the greatest bodybuilder of all time.

After he found bodybuilding success, Arnold Schwarzenegger wished to become a movie star, not an actor, a star. Agents laughed at his bulky muscles and his funny accent. Arnold was not deterred, he knew his path, his destiny, and he went on to become the most famous movie star the world has ever seen.

Young Arnold could have listened to his parents in his small Austrian town of Graz, he could have given up his bodybuilding dreams and followed in the footsteps of his Police Chief father. Becoming Chief of Police is certainly not a bad living, but Arnold certainly would have wondered “what if….” until his dying day.

When asked the question “What Do You Want?” Arnold answered “I want to become the greatest bodybuilder of all time, move to America, become a movie star and then become a world leader“.

Knowing what you want is the most important part of determining and fulfilling your destiny.

Having a plan is of utmost importance. Being able to answer the question “What do you want?” with complete certainty IS your plan. If you cannot answer the question or if you answer with vague uncertainties then that is what you are surely to become: nothing but a vague uncertainty.

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Q: What do you want?

A: Oh, I don’t know. A good job I guess. Maybe some travel. You know, just be happy.

That’s exactly what this person will get. A job that pays him money and steals what is left of his soul. A week of vacation per year and one day he may make it to Cancun, Mexico. That’s it.

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Q: What do you want?

A: I want to set up a drop-shipping business selling blue widgets to overweight single moms. This business will be set up so that it can be run from anywhere in the globe. This will give me a chance to have positive cash flow while I do a little traveling. The blue widget business will not last forever so I will invest money from that venture into real estate, specifically farm land, which will give me an income for the rest of my life. I plan to raise a large family on a farm in xxxxx, away from the degenerate influence of television and public schools.

I would bet money that this person will be able to follow through with this plan, this destiny, because he knows exactly what he wants.

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How to Answer the Question “What Do You Want?”

The first step to answering this question is to BE HONEST. It is only for you that you are answering this question so you must let go of the fear of saying something wrong or improper.

For example: I will get married some day and raise a family. I will only marry a woman who meets specific guidelines, and one of those is that she must be a virgin. Every man I know is deathly afraid to admit that they would prefer a virgin, or to even think that it’s an option. The consequence is that these men will end up with used goods. Fine for them. That is the destiny they have chosen.

When answering the question “What do you want?” it is ok to be selfish. It is imperative to be selfish when answering the question.

You likely already know what you want. For some, the ones who can answer completely, the thoughts are at the forefront of their mind. For others, those who are scared to answer with sincerity and honesty, the thoughts are what keep them awake at night.

What keeps you awake at night?

• Dread for your job?
• Money worries?
• Debt?
• Wishing you had a lovely young lady to hold?
• Excitement for the day ahead?
• Wishing you had something to be excited about?
• Depression?

What you are thinking about is likely what you have waiting for you in the future. Night time is the greatest indicator of whether or not you are following what should be your destiny. There are two options at night when you lay awake:

1. You are visualizing your plan of attack, you are going over your plans, you are preparing, you are excited for the day ahead and you fall asleep content. Or…
2. The demons come for you. All your mistakes and missteps come to eat you up because you are not on the path you should be on.

What To Do

Get a paper and pen and write down the most important things in your life. Read this repeatedly until you have narrowed down exactly what is most important. Then say it out loud. Don’t mumble and don’t stutter. Say it loud with confidence.

Never say “I don’t know“.

When someone says “What do you want for dinner?” you must answer with certainty.

When someone says “What do you want to do tonight?” you must answer with certainty.

This will get you used to answering questions with confidence and sincerity.

Go somewhere you can be alone. Go for a long drive. Go for a walk in the woods. Leave your phone and iPads and electronic junk behind. Just you and your thoughts. Answer the question “What do you want” and answer with complete honesty. There will be no one around to judge your thoughts, there will be no one around to laugh at you or say it can’t be done.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Do not look away. If you cannot look at yourself in the mirror without feeling disgust you cannot accomplish anything. You absolutely must be able to face yourself. When you become comfortable with yourself you will be comfortable exposing yourself and your plan to others.

Play To Your Strengths

Everyone has something they are good at. Play to the strengths you possess.

If you are low IQ you cannot move to Silicone Valley to develop web applications. If you are 5’6 and 28 years old you will not become a professional basketball player. If you live in the middle of nowhere, Kansas you are not going to become a famous actor.

Dreams Do Not Have To Be Grand

The dream for the entirety of my early adult life has been to be self-employed. This is not a grand dream, there are millions who make money on their own. All it takes to become self-employed is a method and a determination to make it work. Once I made the decision to go my own way and never look back it has been downhill.

It has been over 4 years since I have received a paycheck from an employer. If I had simply made the decision earlier and followed through with determination it could have been 10 years ago.

The Power Of Visualization

You must visualize yourself as you want to be. I did this long before I went into business on my own. I visualized exactly what I would be doing, how I would be acting, and wouldn’t you know it? Two or three years later I was doing exactly what I visualized myself doing.

When I want to lift a heavy weight for the first time I visualize it before I lift, sometimes for days. I see myself lifting it in my mind, by the time I get to the gym I have already lifted it a dozen times in my head. My brain already knows I can lift the weight, so I just pick it up and lift it.

The barriers we have are mostly psychological. If we can get past them in our mind they are extremely easy to fulfill in real life.

Choosing Your Destiny

Friends, it is your choice how you wish to live your life. The world is yours for the taking. Your destiny will be what you have built it to be. If you build upon it with a bunch of “I don’t know’s” or a bunch of letting things happen rather than taking action and making them happen then that is the destiny you have to look forward to.

If you have made the decision to plan out your life, rather than letting it happen, you can look forward to your plan coming to fruition.

Friends, I wish you all the best. I hope you will make a plan and follow through. The world has plenty of worker-bee slaves. Let those motherfuckers have it. Your destiny is yours to choose. The choices you make today will affect your tomorrow. Make the right one.

From the desk of Victor Pride
subj: Lost at the beach of peace
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Every morning I’ve been waking up around 4 am and going to the beach of peace.

I don’t go here so early because I want to be alone in solitude, lost in thought or something like that.

I go here so early because that’s the best time to go, which I found out by accident…

I woke up the first day here at 3:30 am and she wanted to see the sunrise so we went to see the sunrise. How can anyone say no to this request?

The beach was only a few minutes from the hotel so that’s where we went. What I saw there shocked me…

At 4 am, the beach was full of people.

I’d found some beautiful place to get lost, and it turns out a lot of other people found the same place.

I couldn’t believe the beach was so busy, but who cares about believing. Believing is for people who don’t have eyes and cannot see. I went there and I saw it – a packed beach before sunrise.

So that’s what I do every day now. I rise before the sun and I go to the beach of peace.

I watch the ladies exercising, I watch the people swimming, I watch the old men watching the girls.

In the distance I can always see Monkey Mountain and the bright white lady who lives there. Her name is Lady Buddha and she is hard to miss.

So early in the morning, before the sun washes the fog away, she is lit in brilliant white and the pink mist envelopes her. She is 30 stories tall and can be seen from anywhere in this city.

I went to see her up close and personal but to be honest I prefer to gaze at her from a distance. Up close and personal she loses a bit of her mystique, but from a distance I can feel her warmth.

In the morning the horizon is a pink mist, Lady Buddha is bathed in fog, partially hidden in clouds, but always shining bright white. Her warm aura envelops the beach.

When the sun rises she disappears for a moment so you have to come before sunrise to feel her true warmth. Even after the sun rises I can still see her shadow, she is always lit, always watching over this city.

I love it here and I come to the beach every morning. If you get here too late, like after sunrise, the magic is already gone, so you have to wake up early. 

Thankfully it’s not hard to wake up so early. The distinction between night and day just isn’t there. Whenever, wherever, however. 

People are outside at all hours of the day or night. It’s not like Venice Beach where the only people out at night are bums on drugs. No one does drugs here and there isn’t a beer in sight. In the early hours of the morning, everyone is warm.

All people are outside here, there is no fear, there are no muggings, there are no bums. There are just people who love to be outside among other people.

At 4:57 am there are too many people on the beach to count. All are doing exercise in the natural way. Walking, swimming and stretching the body. There are no fat people.

People walk by me and they say hello with a big smile and they wave. I’m a simple man, when people smile, wave wildly and say hello to me I cannot help but smile back.

Maybe I’m a sucker but all you have to do to win me over is be nice without fear of looking too nice. When people say hello to me and wave it makes me happy in a way I don’t want to explain.

Where I come from, people don’t act like this anymore. They’re too cool I suppose. That’s why I found some beautiful place to get lost.

You should see it, it is really amazing. Close your eyes, I’ll try to help you to see it…

Imagine a group of nice people walking by you, smiling, waving wildly and saying hello! and having no intention to cheat, rob or harm you. You cannot do such things under the enchanting gaze of Lady Buddha.

That’s why I’m here and not anywhere else.

Where am I?

Friend I don’t want to ruin a good place by telling bad people about it. But I can give you one hint. If you can play true detective you can find it. Here’s the hint…

If you can find Lady Buddha at the base of Monkey Mountain, you can find a beautiful place to get lost.

Maybe I can see you here some morning and we can be lost together. Wouldn’t that be nice?

I just hope you aren’t too cool to say hello. That’s all I want really. Just say hello to me and mean it.

I will respond in kind because under the benevolent eyes of Lady Buddha I cannot be anything other than kind. No one can and that’s why I’m in love here.

Until then.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

Pssst.

Are you an angry man?

You are, huh.

Well then, I have a little secret for you…

Anger is not a bad thing. Anger is fuel.

The trick is channeling the anger into worthwhile pursuits and not letting that anger get the best of you.

Being able to control your anger is what men do. It is childish to show your anger constantly. It is childish to not be able to control your anger, or to show your anger inappropriately. Certainly, your anger must come out at the right time – but each time some little thing bothers you is not the right time to show your anger. This is not repression, it is channeling. The anger must be channeled into a higher pursuit.

I know some very angry men, it is not a life I would wish for anyone. Even with all the baloney that you face each and every day there is still too much great to be angry all the time. The absolute beauty of being born a free man of the west is that you are free to change your circumstances as you wish.

Maybe you had someone tell you, when you were a child, that you would not amount to anything. And maybe you even listened to them. But I am here to tell you right here and right now that those motherfuckers were wrong. And it is your responsibility as an achiever to prove it. Take that anger that you have and channel that into a project. Channel it into power. Don’t just let it eat you. Eat that anger first and spit it out a winner.

“You want to make me angry? I will take a bite out of that anger and shit out success.”

How to Channel Anger

Business

Take the anger and use it as energy for success. The best revenge, the best remedy for anger, is success. The best kind of success is the kind you have created and built for yourself. If I were a young man I would focus 150% on building a business online. If I were an older man with a job, wife, kids and all those other shackles I would focus 99% on building a business online and generating some nice side income. Or I would focus on some other side business, but something that fills your time with something positive and gives you rewards on your work.

When I was a corporate man I was very angry. Sitting in traffic, yelling in my car at the dumb motherfuckers who can’t drive, moving 10 feet and then stopping for two minutes, on and on until I finally got to work or home.

Since I have made the decision to go on my own forever, I will never be forced to sit in traffic again. I have my own personal rule: I never get on the highway between the hours of 4:30 pm to 6:30 pm. I just stay at home, laughing at all the goons stuck in traffic.

Art

Art requires energy. Energy that could otherwise go into blind anger. I am of the belief that every man should practice art.

Art is not limited to the obvious (painting, drawing). Art can encompass many things. Being a skilled craftsman is like being an artist. Art can be:

• Writing
• Music
• Painting
• Woodworking
• Carpentry
• Fixing up cars

Anything that requires talent and that you have a genuine love for is art. You can turn that anger into expression of the highest form, rather than the lowest form.

Location

If I lived in, say, Arkansas I would be highly angry. All it would take to remedy that would be a simple move. If your location is not to your liking there is a very simple fix for that: move.

I cannot say this enough: YOU HAVE COMPLETE CONTROL AND CHOICE OVER YOUR LIFE.

If you hate the area you live then pack up and find a new place. If you hate that place pack up and find another one. There’s a great big world out there.

You may even figure out that there is no place quite like home and it’s not so bad. After all, you do not know how much you have and how well you have it until it is gone.

Fitness

It’s hard to be angry when a hot blonde with big titties is running her hands over your abs with wide eyes.

The purpose of the gym is to get in there and work out your anger. There is one gym rule to live your life by: Get in that motherfucker and get to work. Drop the weights, curl in the squat rack, stare at the ladies – do whatever the fuck you want as long as you are pushing it 110%. It’s the little guys who are constantly worried about what everyone else is thinking and if they’re “doing it right”. Let me tell you something, I don’t give two shits what anyone in the gym thinks about me. I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do and that’s all there is to it. And that’s why when I leave the gym I’m void of anger and pumped up on adrenaline.

Jogging

When it comes to burning fat and getting jacked, jogging is the worst route to take. On the other hand, there is a thing called runners high. Runners high happens when you are running for a while and endorphins are released into your system. It is like taking a shot of adrenaline, all natural and narcotic free. I always thought it was a bunch of hippy nonsense but I found out for myself that it is very real. I am not a jogger or a runner, never have been. Again, it is the worst way to get in shape. However, I signed up for a 12 mile death race and had two weeks to prepare.

Enter the running…

I started running one day for 25 minutes. Then the next day I would do 30 minutes, then the next day 35 minutes and so on. I dare say that runners high is more effective than the high you get from weightlifting. It is intense and champion molding. After pushing your body to the limit, and then pushing beyond your comfort zone and pain barrier, your body goes into runners high mode and the pain is no longer there. It’s just you and those miles adding up. In the midst of this high there is almost no better feeling in the world.

Emasculation

Treating men and boys like dickless curs is big, big business. It will happen to you if you let it. Women will cheat on you. They will laugh at you. They will treat you like you have a vagina.

IF YOU LET IT HAPPEN.

It does not happen to me. It never has. But I have seen it happen over and over and over again. There is an easy fucking fix: Act like a man. You have a dick, don’t be shy to act like it. Make the decision to never give your power away and it won’t happen.

When your women treat you like a man instead of a girl it is hard to be angry. Hail to the King, baby.

Avoidance of Anger Inducing Places

Grocery stores in certain parts of town make me angry (disgusted may be a better word). For this reason I only visit high-class (super white) grocery stores like Whole Foods. These places are always very pleasant. I shopped at one of these places exclusively for almost a year and it was pleasant beyond belief. I spent a ton on food every month, I could have had an apartment for what I spent, but it is completely worth it to not have to look at human garbage.

Under no circumstance do I visit Wal-Mart. For you foreign readers here’s a nice look at what you are missing: People of Wal-Mart.

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It is time to turn that anger into worthwhile pursuits. Being angry and doing nothing about it or having nothing to show for it is just a waste. Being angry and letting that fuel you, well, that’s how you can create something special.

If you are an angry man, channel that anger into power and create something.

Remember friends, you can let the anger eat you up or you can turn that anger into fuel for achievement.

From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: Not giving up when you start getting somewhere
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I get asked the same question constantly.

“Victor, please help! I don’t want to do A, I want to do B. But my family wants me to do A. What should I do?“.

You should stop being a cowardly Lion, that’s what you should do.

If you know what you want to do, what you need to do, but you run away from it you are a coward and a quitter.

“But but but but but but but but but but but….”

But shut up.

If I wanted to hear about ifs and buts and candies and nuts I would have started Timid & Unsure – The Website for Mediocres.

But I didn’t, I started Bold & Determined – The Website for Winners.

So do one very important thing, pretty please for me, let the winner out. Stop resisting. If it’s your fate to be great then do it.

Your friends and family will either support you or they won’t. The ones who resist you (the majority) are saboteurs out to stop you from real success. If you can do it and they can’t, well, that’s a real nasty thought for them to think about.

So how do you convince your friends and family that you will succeed and be a big success and that they should believe in you?

You don’t convince them of anything. You should never conspire with saboteurs and you should never seek approval from people who are irrelevant to your success.

Your friends and family aren’t on the same wavelength as you and they are not the real enemy to success. It is not them that need to be convinced.

It is you who needs to convince yourself.

An unbreakable resolve and an iron will is worth more than 10,000 well-wishers. Support is irrelevant if you don’t even believe in yourself beyond reason.

Do you know what it’s called to resist your calling in life? It’s called self-sabotage. When you resist you are sabotaging yourself. You’re a damn traitor to yourself.

Your punishment as a traitor is more severe than Judas’ or Brutus’. Your punishment, as a traitor to yourself, is to live your whole life doing a job you hate and asking yourself the same question, teary eyed at night when no one else can see, “what if?“.

Oh, if only you had done as you were supposed to. If only you hadn’t ran from your destiny like Jonah. If only you weren’t a self-saboteur who conspired with other saboteurs against yourself.

“If only, if only, if only, boo-hoo“.

Good news, no matter how old you are and no matter how many times you have turned your back on success it is not too late. When you make the change you will only have one regret: “I should have done this sooner. My god, why did I wait so long?“.

After you’re done feeling sorry for yourself, you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and say these words: I can do it, I will do it and no one will stop me.

Instead of being a self-saboteur, become self-sufficient. Unbreakable in your resolve.

It’s OK to be scared, everyone is scared, even I’m scared every time I hit publish. I’m not afraid 10 people will read, I’m afraid a million people will read.

The more successful you are the stronger the fear becomes. People will sabotage themselves so they don’t have to feel the fear anymore. Fear stops cowards and fear powers winners

When you’re successful everything is on the line, all eyes are on you and they’re all praying for you to fail. It’s easy to give them what they want, another failure. When you’re a failure nothing is on the line and there is no more pressure.

It’s not the absence of fear that makes you great. It’s action in the face of that fear that makes you great.

No one is really afraid of failing. Failing is easy and everybody does it. Nobody will hate you for failing. They will hate you for succeeding where they have failed.

Nobody wants to be hated, nobody wants to work hard, nobody wants to think they are better than others, nobody wants to make a big change, nobody wants mounting pressures.

It’s easier to just stay small. It’s easier to procrastinate and pretend you are going to do something big “later“. It’s easier to just be regular and fit in with regular Joe and Joanna.

It’s easier, when you’re on the cusp of success, staring it down, to just turn your back and walk away.

When you fail you get to stay the same, no change required, and staying the same is easy.

“The higher you climb the harder you fall. It’s lonely at the top. You don’t deserve success when other people are starving.”

On and on the excuses. Hey, if that’s the way you feel you can just stay the same. It’s a guarantee that no one will despise you for not succeeding and not everybody was meant for more.

But…

If you’re better than that you have to fight through that feeling of fear. Stop the procrastination and excuses for 30 days. Then extend it 30 more days. And 30 more. And on and on and on and on and on…

…and on and on and on…..

And just don’t damn stop. All the way from A to Z.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

PS – If you enjoyed this post be sure to check out the Rock ‘n Roll version.

From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: Rock n roll rebel
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A lot of young men ask “is there hope for me? I feel like a loser. I want success. I want what you have. How do I get it?“.

My inbox is flooded with these questions.

Here’s the deal…

When I was a young man I wanted to be a professional musician.

I spent every waking moment playing guitar, writing songs and recording songs.

Then “life” got in the way.

I got a job(s), I went to university, I moved into an expensive apartment, I went into debt and what was once an obsession went away.

The dream never went away, the action went away.

I stopped recording songs, I stopped pursuing music.

But it never left my heart and I always knew I’d made a huge mistake.

I’m in a position now where I could make music 24/7 (below is my musical message to the young go-getters).

But listen boys, I’m 32. I wasted my prime creative years as a wage slave dummy.

Why didn’t I pursue music?

I didn’t listen to my gut. I didn’t believe in myself and I gave up. Simple as that. Lesson learned.

But I found my way and I found my calling. Bold and Determined will never be given up. I don’t care about music as a career, B&D is my life calling and motivation is my art. Everything worked out for me.

What about you, is there “hope” for you?

No. Hope is for dreamers.

If you want it you take it. Forget about hoping and wishing and dreaming.

Take action every damn day that you’re alive and you’ll get what you want.

What if you’re old and already made big mistakes?

It’s never too late to turn it all around. Never.

Let me tell you what I did years ago…

I sold my house. I sold my car. I sold all my furniture and what didn’t sell I tossed into a garbage bin. I said goodbye to my dogs, my best pals, I moved to Asia and I lived in a $100 per month apartment.

I had a suitcase, a laptop and I had enough money to live for a year. In that year I didn’t make a dime from Bold and Determined. Instead, I concentrated on building a rock-solid foundation for Bold and Determined. Now the foundation is there, but it took me a year to build.

Then…

For four years I lived like no one else would.

I didn’t have a car for four years (still don’t, don’t need one), I lived in Asia for four years (still do), I didn’t spend money on anything other than travel and work expenses for four years, I never spent more than $500 on rent for four years.

I didn’t allow myself a single luxury for four years.

Now?

I lived like no one else would for four years, now I can live like no one else can.

Now I can buy anything I want. I can make up for lost time. There are no limits on my lifestyle anymore.

But I did my time doing the work.

So, friend, you may be old but it ain’t over for you unless you call it quits.

You gotta work, you gotta sweat or you won’t get far, and you gotta start immediately.

Not so long ago I published an article called How to Conquer the Fear of Success.

I put the words to music and made a rock tune out of it.

The tune should answer your questions for you.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride

PS – Just in case you’re interested in the “behind the scenes” here is the song without words. Just music. All instruments performed by Victor Pride.

Note: This version is louder than the other version, turn down your speakers a little bit before you hit play.

Would you like to create your own reality?

Would you like to become someone else, someone better, someone who doesn’t take orders all day, someone who lives life on their terms?

Would you like to live your dream?

Would you like to hear the secret about how to create your own destiny?

Well, the fancy secret is that you DO create your own reality. You do create your own destiny.

As you are reading this right now you are creating your reality. If you aren’t living up to your potential it is because you chose not to. Make the choice to live life on your terms, your own way.

Forget about societies rules how things should be done. Societies rules are meaningless to you. Make your own rules and only follow them.

Everything you see, do, hear, see, and feel exists because you created it.

The computer screen you’re reading exists because you created it. The job you work exists because you created it. This article exists because you created it.

If you hadn’t come across this website and this article would it still be here? In your world, no, it would not, cannot exist.

Create for yourself a life of abundance. All it takes is the decision to do so.

Make the choice. Live life as a slave, following others (who don’t even exist) or live life as the king of your reality.

Whose to say we are all not just dreams of ourselves and that nothing really exists.

As long as you are dreaming the dream, LIVE THE DREAM!

Don’t let the nightmare become your reality.